Saturday, January 14, 2012

Mind Your Manners

The date went...... okay.......I guess. Still not sure what to make of the whole night.

James picked me up. He actually showed up 10 mins early (big points for that) and brought me flowers ( I didn't think guys like that existed anymore). He was dressed nice, casual but looked great. He was wearing a nice pair of puma runners which I have to say was a turn on. A grown man wearing nice jeans with nice "sneakers" tells me that he doesn't take life to seriously and is fun. I'm big on shoes - deck shoes with tassels (you know the ones) = date over. Anyways, he was cute (just like his picture) and smelled awesome. He greeted me with a big smile and a kiss on the cheek.

He drove to the restaurant downtown. When we got there he had made a reservation which was impressive that he planned ahead. A before dinner drink, and then came the ordering of supper.

Waitress "How are you guys tonight?"

James "Yeah, get me..." Wow, maybe he didn't realize how rude that sounded or the look on her face.

Me "May I please have...... thank you" Trying to overcompensate for his lack of manners

With that James thrusts the menus at her and turns back towards me. Then he continues on with his pleasant conversation with me. She stands there for an extended moment before walking away and I'm thinking great, she's going to spit in our food. The rest of supper went well conversation wise. James was witty, funny and easy to talk to, but every time the waitress came back he was short with her and was completely absent of manners. Manners are a big deal to me, so big strike.

Then off to the comedy club. How could this be a bad thing, drinks and a laugh, what could go wrong. Well, James turned into this obnoxious heckler who kept yelling out, so embarrassing for me. Then his heckles become more and more rude, personally attacking the comedian, yet he still thought he was funny. The comedian asked me if I was his girlfriend and how I could put up with such an idiot. I could have crawled right under the table. When we left James was on a roll and even heckled a few people in the street, who is this guy?

We walked back to my place. Conversation and easy again. James went on to compliment me and tell me how great of a time he had and how he's like to do this again. We get to my place and he says "I'd invite my self in but I think more of you than to love you and leave you" and kisses me on the cheek. I say " who says I'd let you in?", and he says "trust me, you want me to come in" and with that he walks away. Wow.

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

The Set Up

Working one night with a nurse from another floor, she seemed to be a really nice girl and was easy to talk to. It worked out well as we were working in a section where it was only two of us so it can make for an uncomfortable 12 hours. It seemed as though we had a lot in common and we knew some of the same people. She was showing me some pictures of her friends and parties and I happened to mention that one of the guys was cute. She said "That's James, I should set you guys up", I laughed and that was the end of it. At the end of the shift we befriend each other on facebook.

Two weeks later I'm sitting at home and the phone rings. It's Michelle's friend James! WTF! Wow, did I put out signs that I was needing a date. Oh well, I'll stay open minded about this.



"This is James. I am friends with Michelle from your work. She said I should phone you. She said that you had the hot's for me" What! Who says that? Who is this jack ass.

"She neglected to say you were full of yourself. I didn't say you were cute, I said you weren't bad, that's a long way from cute". There take that Mr. Then came a big (sexy) laugh from the other end of the phone.

"Michelle also said you were beautiful and witty and could keep up with me. I can tell already the last two are true but I'd better take you out for supper to see how beautiful you are". Smooth. Shit!

After an easy conversation that lasted about 30 mins I had agreed to a date. This one is going to be trouble. He is confident (a little too confident), funny and yes - definitely cute. Need to bring my poker face on this date. Plan - dinner and comedy show, should be fun!

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

To Blog or Not Blog, That is the Question.

Blogging isn't something that came easily for me. It first started out as kind of a dare. My dating life has been a bit of a roller coaster, and the stories from my dates and relationships are like a book. It is almost unbelievable the stories that I have, and the only thing I can say is "only me".

I didn't really mind sharing my stories on here, as I remain somewhat anonymous. I haven't advertized my blog, only a few of my close friends know I am doing this and think it is very entertaining. So I spoke candidly about my dates and life, it's actually quite refreshing to write it all down. And then (*insert music - dun,dun,dun), people at my work found out! Ahhhh, how did this happen? I still don't know who the first person was that found it, but my entire department, doctors, residents, and nurses from other floors know about it. Quite embarrassing to say the least, I probably heard about it straight for a month. My girlfriend who works on the ortho floor called me asking if I was really writing a book about my life. Crazy how quickly rumors start and spread.

After news got out about my blog and being teased relentlessly about it I decided to remove it all together. I talked with my friend about it and she said "why remove it now, everybody has already read it" - true. So I guess at that point I just stopped writing. Why add fuel to the fire and give people a reason to bug me over it. There was a certain young male resident who just couldn't let it go, kept teasing me about it, especially when others were around. I am pretty even tempered but this one day I couldn't take it any more and I said (in front of people) "Would you just fuck right off! Your just jealous that you'll never make it into my pages!".  He replied with something boyish like "you wish you could date me", but from that point forward nobody teased me again.

I'd like to think that others opinions don't have such a strong influence over my life, but apparently they do, as I completely stopped blogging due to all the teasing. When people knew that my blog was out there, I didn't want to open up and let people know my life outside of work. I didn't want to be judged. But now, screw what others think. I have had a lot of changes in my life in the last year and I'll be damned to live it worrying about others. I know who I am, and the type of person I am. So I am starting to write again, I like it and I like the feedback I get from others, especially my close friends who get a laugh out of it. Hopefully if you read this you will get some sort of entertainment out of it, after all, this is MY life!

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Good Riddance 2011, Bring on 2012

So I guess it's been a while since my last post. I appreciate all the feedback that I received from people who have read my blog. I am by no means a "blogger", I am just a girl writing about my experiences in dating and life.

2011 was not a very kind year to me. I have not found love, my job remains stressful, my father who was the first man and maybe only man I have ever loved died unexpectedly. It has been a year full of ups and downs and heart ache and heart break.

2012 isn't off to a great start either. I worked new years eve a night shift and woke up new years day with the stomach flu -FML! Today is the first day that I am starting to feel better. This year I have made some resolutions, and as always I plan to stick with them. They are as follows:
1. Stop caring so much about other people's opinions (which is why I am starting to blog again, which I wll get into later)
2. Be more patient and understanding
3. Live a healthier lifestyle
4. Make more time for family and friends - life is too short and you never regret time spent with loved   ones

So here is to a year full of hope and promises. Life, after all is what you make of it. So happy new years to all of you out there, I wish you nothing but the best. Please keep reading my blogs and giving me your feedback, and I will try to entertain you with this circus I call my life 🙂